A New Part of the Journey

Those of you who know me will know that I share my life pretty openly with others. I don’t have a lot of secrets. I want to talk a little bit about why that is. It is not because I particularly enjoy being a very public person, I am really kind of shy . . . yes, that’s right! Kind of shy. But for some reason I do not have the kind of a life that allows me to stay home most of the time and have just a few close friends.

As co-owners of the world’s largest word-of-mouth marketing business which focuses on building and maintaining relationships, Ivan and I willingly share our lives with many people, some we get to know well and some we don’t. I have never really talked about this aspect of life as it has unfolded itself in front of me, and I would like to do that. I feel very much that we are connected to each other in a way that allows what we go through personally to be of benefit to one another. When you have gone through something difficult, when I have that in front of me, you help me by sharing your experience, your strength and your encouragement with me. I want to do the same thing!

If you are following me on Facebook, you know that my husband shared with our BNI members and Directors about two weeks ago that he has been diagnosed with prostate cancer. And so a new part of our life journey stretches out before us. I can honestly tell you that neither of us had a first reaction of panic or fear. Sure, there was shock and a sense of being completely stunned, but the next thought I had was, “Okay, let’s get all the information we can and move forward from here.” I also thought, “Wow, I wonder what amazing things we will look back and see in our lives as a result of this experience.”

I process my emotions, feelings and responses through writing. I have kept a journal since my freshman year in high school when I wrote “Dear Diary” every night…every night for the four years I was in high school! I continued to journal in college and have done so ever since. There have been times when there are some gaps in my journal’s timeline, but I always seem to go back to the process, especially in times like this.

I want to share some of my current journaling with you from time to time in the hopes that something I am going through may serve to encourage you and strengthen your faith. Please share back with me when I post so you can strengthen me, too. We really need each other’s positive influence in our lives–and I need yours’ in my life right now.

The love which has been pouring out to Ivan and me has been so wonderful and so needed. We appreciate all of your love, your support, your encouragement, your stories, your advice, and most of all, your prayers. I really mean it when I say that we are seeing our personal network through some different lenses now and it is really quite remarkable. I can only hope that this part of our journey will touch you in a positive way, as well. It makes all we go through meaningful. It redeems what could be seen to be scary, unfair, painful and so on. In reality, it is none of those things. It simply is what is. And we will do what we can do and trust that our lives are in God’s hands.

So, you will see some posts here and there about our current experiences and probably some recipes and creative menus as I learn how to support the immune system through healthy eating. I’ve always been fascinated with how amazing our bodies are and how well they work when nourished properly. This will be one of my support roles for Ivan. Good thing I LOVE to cook, right? ūüôā Okay, that’s enough for tonight. Love to all.

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  • I can attest to the GREAT healthy meals.¬† I can’t wait to see what’s next.



  • Mark Baldwijn

    Beth, thank you for sharing your life. Now is a time of transition for many and being privileged to see people like you and Ivan making necessary adjustments with a will do, positive spirit is inspiring. The future looks very inviting and I plan to grab hold of it. Your example strengthens my conviction. Of course I look forward to being fortified by your unfolding story but know this I expect to serve. How can I be of service? 

    • ¬†Well, my first thought is to please pray for us. I know that there will be some days which will be harder than others. We have a pretty busy travel schedule this summer and we have been encouraged by Ivan’s doctor to stick to our schedule and take time while traveling to really enjoy ourselves. How is that for starters?


    Lovely share Beth and Ivan..Yes life’s courses are unexpected but they always teach invaluable lessons ūüôā

  • Niri

    Beth, what shines through is that you live in an attitude of gratitude and count your blessings daily. After all, isn’t that what life’s about? The magic moments. Fabulous blog- thank you. love and blessings to you and your wonderful family

    • ¬†You are very right, Niri. Even in the hard times, there are lots of those magic moments. I appreciate your encouragement. Means so much…see you in a couple of weeks!!

  • Lannanarms

    Beth. & Ivan:

    Thank you for the vulnerability you show in sharing with us and letting us share and pray with you. Your positive approach and actions in knowing God has a plann, remind us all that he’s there through all things- good and not so good. Things that help us re-adjust our priorities and lives. Continue to stay positive in prayer and action, and we also we walk along side you in thought and prayer.

    Brian & Alexis Lannan

    • Ivan’s dear mom used to say the secret to happiness is the ability to adjust and then readjust. Looking at life from nearly 50 years lived (47 3/4), I can relate to that. You remind me of that with your post. Thank you for your love and prayers.

  • renee

    Hi Beth, I too have experienced what you are writing
    about here. I journal off and on a lot to get my feelings out. I started a blog
    after my son, Richard was diagnosed with testicular cancer in Nov. 2011. It has help me and I hope in return it can help others. Yet,
    I have also found blogging very difficult because it put me out there
    for the ‘world’ to see and it can make¬†me feel¬†vulnerable
    and open to others critiques. In Feb. I had another
    son, Keith that was diagnosed with the same cancer. My father passed away in
    Feb. of this year. (I’m so sorry to¬†read of Ivan‚Äôs mother passing) I too love the Lord. I
    have enjoyed reading some of your posted and wanted to let you know.  Thank you. 

  • Pamwittneben

    “…seeing our network through different lenses…”¬† Our experiences help us to understand others.¬† We can always be caring and empathetic to anyone, but I always find that it is always easier to be especially sensitive to those who experience similar trials and joys.¬† Thank you for your open heart, Beth.¬†